Simple Steps To Achieving True Happiness: Make A Change!


“If you don’t know yourself, how can you be happy?”


Do you really know yourself? I mean, what fascinates me is how many are looking outside themselves for happiness. For you to be happy, you need to know yourself. Because if you don’t know yourself, how can you be happy? You’ll be drifting around reacting to whatever is happening to you – either in a good way, or in a negative way.  


Map Out Your Positives And Your Negatives

So I’d say that the first step that you should be taking is to sit down, have a full day (maybe you need more), without interruptions, bring out a big piece of paper, and make a split in the middle of that paper. On the left hand side, you write down everything that you (for the last year) hate doing. In chronological order. So the one thing that you hate the most and that you seem to be doing the most, that is the biggest negative in your life, will be at the top. On the right hand side, you start writing what you really love to do. Like what make you excited. The things in your life that you love doing. That’s your current status, right? That’s how it is for you right now.


So the goal is to try to eliminate what’s on the left side, the negatives in your life, the things that you do not enjoy, and the things that are affecting you negatively; and boost more focus on the right hand side.


Create Your Vision

Then it comes back to the vision. That is the basis of everything! If you don’t have a vision, then you’re kind of lost; you don’t really know where you’re going. It’s similar to me being on a roadtrip with my family in Europe, yet I have no clue where I want to go. Nobody can do that. You can’t go on a roadtrip without knowing where you’re gonna end up or where you’re aiming for.


Same thing with life. Same thing with a career. Same thing with a business. I mean, one of the main things you put in a business plan is the vision and the mission of the company. So if you know the vision and the mission, you know where you’re going, right? That can then dictate, and you can work back from that in terms of dissecting what goals you need to accomplish along the way. But the one thing needed to create all of this – that vision – is that you really know yourself!


And you need to chip away the layers of influence. The layers of expectations from people around you; and really dig deep into yourself and ask: “Hey, is this really me?”


Here’s a good exercise or question to ask yourself: “If I had all the money in the world, what would I love doing, and what would I not want to do anymore? What would I change?” Most people are scared of change. But I welcome change! Change means growth. Change means new experiences. Change means more chapters for me to look back at when I reflect on my life at an old age – instead of regret.


Put It On Paper

So, literally, start mapping what you enjoy doing, what you love doing; and start creating that vision of where you want to go in 5 to 10 years. And it all should be on paper. If you can’t put it on paper, it means it’s not structured enough. It’s not clear enough. That’s an exercise for this week! Do it. It’ll help.

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